💗 The Most Important Relationship:

💗 The One with Yourself 

Before we can truly connect with others, we must learn to enjoy our own company. When we take the time to explore what we genuinely love—whether it’s walking in nature, dancing, writing, or simply sitting in silence—we start to build a peaceful and nourishing relationship with ourselves. This inner connection becomes our foundation. When we are alone, we are not lonely—we are in good company.

 Letting Go of Old Ideas

Many of us carry outdated ideas about what relationships are supposed to look like—how they should begin, how they should progress, and what roles we are meant to play. But real relationships don’t fit into one model. They are as unique as the people involved.

Sadly, most of us were never taught about boundaries. We may also struggle with empathy or lack the tools to express what we feel in a healthy way. When we don’t communicate, little misunderstandings or unmet needs can grow quietly until they burst into conflict.

That’s why communication is essential—not just about logistics, but about feelings and needs.

Saying things like:

“This is what’s happening for me.”

“This is how I’m feeling.”

“This is what I need.”

“I’d like to do this—are you okay with that?”

These simple phrases can help us build honest, conscious connections.

Relationships Need Space to Breathe

If two people truly want to work on their relationship, it helps to set aside time once a week—just to sit together. This could be a time to talk, draw, write, or simply sit in silence. The idea is to move the emotions from the emotional brain (the limbic system) into the thinking brain (the prefrontal cortex), where they can be understood and processed.

Even sitting quietly together can be powerful. It gives space for the invisible to do its work—for healing, grounding, and mutual understanding to emerge without needing to force it.

But if the other person isn’t willing to meet you there, it becomes a one-sided relationship. Eventually, these imbalanced relationships collapse. It's painful, but it’s part of the learning.

Soul Contracts and Letting Go

Many spiritual teachers speak about soul contracts—agreements we make before this life to help us learn specific lessons. Some relationships are meant to challenge us, to show us the parts of ourselves that still need healing.

These contracts can be fulfilled and released. What matters most is that we become more of who we truly are. That is love.

When someone triggers a part of you that you don’t like, pause and ask: “What is this trying to show me?” Instead of reacting, be gentle with yourself. Journal about what’s coming up. Write down the feelings, the patterns, and the memories. Then go further: write the story of who you want to be, and the kind of relationship you want to experience.

If the present moment doesn’t match that vision, align yourself with the feeling of the life you want—and trust that everything around you will start to shift. Why? Because you have already changed.

Sometimes people will leave your life. That’s okay. That’s life.

Let them go with compassion. Be willing. Be kind to yourself. And most of all, love yourself without conditions.